Teen Love: Possibility?
High school is a time of fun, education, drama, and growth. But is it a place for love? Walking down the hallways, you will spot couples holding hands, kissing, and sometimes, more. The question is: Are teenagers capable of truly being in love or is it just "puppy love?" There are two types of relationships: Those that last and those that don't. Recently, it seems couples are lasting longer than the initial weeks. Some couples date for a year or two, if not longer. Congratulations! This however, is in the minority. High school sweethearts seem to be becoming increasingly rare and relationships tend to last all of a week or two. In more ways than one, high school is a good way to zoom in on what you are looking for in your "special someone"...but that does not mean you truly are in love with your boyfriend or girlfriend in a week. It's fine as long as you don't profess undying love because then you're just being childish and foolish. The question in mind is still: Can you honestly call any high school relationship true love? Would they last outside in the "real" world? Yeah, you read that right. I just said that most teenagers aren't living in the "real" world. Take a deep breath now there are those that have overcome more than most adults but there are definitely those that don't know the meaning of responsibility. For the most part, most teenagers have a certain amount of responsibility, but it is no where near that of an adults. It's a fact. Is it possible that the only reason your relationship is lasting is because you see each other a lot and can keep an eye on each other? Cause ya' know, you can't do that once you work and have people relying on you. First off, let's define love. Just so we're on the same page(no pun intended...initially:)) " I think to love someone you have to have a friendship with them. It can't just be a physical thing. You have to go through a lot to figure it out. You can't go out for a week and then say you love them and mean it. Making it past one problem does not mean you're in love," says junior Brittany O'Connell. Is she right? It would seem so. "Love is a strong, more open friendship shared between only two people," said sophomore Mike Alexander. Let's make this simple and restate what was said. Friendship. The difference is what? Chemistry? Trust? The complexity of love is that there is no exact formula. It doesn't have a checklist that you fill out and once complete ensures you're in love. Nope. All the things worth having are of course difficult to attain. Despite the vague "description" of love, let's move forward. What is a common reason why relationships end? "Lack of communication skills will only bring a relationship down. People can't seem able to voice their opinions constructively without hurting the other's feelings," Mike Alexander, a sophomore stated. Communication skills. Oh right, most adults don't possess those, let alone teenagers. Starting to see the picture? Other reasons why teens can't seem to keep relationships going are : drugs, music, and peer pressure. Singers close in age write about one night stands, etc. Is it any surprise "relationship" has suddenly become such a vague term? Are teens capable of true love? I would have to say yes. Don't get ahead of yourself. It's rare. You really can't say it's not possible. So, it would be more correct to assume that though rare, love may exist between teenagers. It depends on the people involved, their strengths, and their weaknesses. And quite possibly, their patience with each other. :)